One thing that has been a gradual
happening in my life is the renewing of my mind on the subject of sexual
intimacy. I posted about this same topic some time ago, about how I wanted more than just sex. Someone posed the
question to me "Is kissing a sin?" After thinking about it, I gave the
answer that is below. It made me realize that my mind has changed on this
issue. However, I haven't had the opportunity to test this mindset (that is,
since my mind has been changed, I haven't been in a relationship/intimate type
situation). So prayerfully, I will be able to hold on to my convictions when
the time does come.
Here's what I said:
My opinion? I don't believe that kissing is a sin, but the Bible also says that while some things may be permissible (that is, we can do them, they aren't sin), all things are not beneficial [1 Cor 6:12; 1 Cor 10:23]. It is where your heart is. If you are lusting in your heart, you may as well be sinning if you keep entertaining it [Matthew 5:28; Job 31:1]. Kissing, making out, etc are just preparing your body for sex, something that you aren't supposed to be doing with anyone who is not your husband. So it is like you are placing yourself in temptation, when the Word tell us to flee from it [1 Cor 6:18; James 4:7]. Why put yourself in a position to fall?
Now, I'm not gonna say I'm a person who won't be kissing my husband until the altar (no ma'am!). I will most certainly be kissing, holding hands with, hugging, and showing other types of affection to/with my boyfriend. But I also know that most of the time, this will be done in public. Knowing myself and my past, I'm not trying to be alone for any long stretch of time with my man in my next relationship. I know I LOVE sex, I know I will be the one tempting him lol, and I know it's hard for me to resist any ANY hint of attraction. So if we can't comfortably do it in public, then I won't do it in private. [1 Thess 5:22; 1 Peter 2:12]
